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My Voice on EARTH FM – on the margin of the Copenhagen Climate Change Conference -

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On the margin of the Copenhagen Climate Change Conference, a great initiative from Leo Burnett Australia who already started the Earth Hour campaign are now launching the EarthFM, where people from around the world are asked to cast their voice to the World Leaders to take bold action and stop the dilution of our environment. 


Al though it was kinda weird to record my voice then upload it, but the desire to really have a voice pushed me to do it. 


Here what I said:
“This is the time where being in difference is acting against the movement. Unless we all shout and scream, no one will listen to us. We want to make it clear that the world leaders has to take ultimate measures towards our planet. If it wasn’t for our lifetime, its for our children’s. 
For those who are selfish enough not to care about whats going on, what if each of us will come back to this planet after we die. I am not trying to freak you out, but there is some people who believe that human beings can actually re-incarnate and their soul might come back wearing a new human body. If this is just an assumption, wouldn’t be enough to raise your voice and vote for earth’s sustainability, so that when you come back, you don’t have to suffer and go through all the mess we are are creating today.” 


If you feel you have something to say or you simply like to see what other people are saying about the topic, just visit this website: http://www.earthhour.org/EarthFM

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December 16, 2009 at 2:39 pm

Some strange morning thoughts

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As I wake up everyday early in the morning, I usually have time to reflect on life and its meaning, trying to dig a path of understanding of the universe. Putting religion aside, I was lucky to discover and realize my life purpose early-on. Knowing the impact of both “Education” & “Technology” on my life and millions of others, I found out that its worth dedicating my life to it: “I exist to elevate, inspire and empower people by means of education and technology”. This might sound profound to some, generic to others, but it doesn’t really matter as long as the purpose isn’t evil or doesn’t harm the planet on the broader perspective. But the question is: is it better to the world to be better? or how can you measure being better? and on what criteria?

So, if I want to educate as many people as possible so that maybe they get enlightened, inspired and empowered to change the world to a better place, will I be doing something good or bad? I mean does the world really need to be better. What about that maybe suffering must be part of the existence of human beings!
Ummm, anyways, well lets not complicate matters Naja common, it is trendy to stand up and talk about a world with less human suffering. People will regard you as a hero. Your social status becomes higher and higher… don’t you think?
Yeah alright… Thats true, people are admired if they were able to reduce pain and increase pleasure within other people. If you give me food when I am hungry, I would bow to you, thank you and cherish you. Why? Because human nature seeks pleasing it self. Our bodies (including our brain and spirit) need pleasure. But are we sure that our bodies only need pleasure? Imagine a life with no pain. Well, this is not possible because, you are definite to break your arm, your heart and feel sad about someone deer who died. So what we are talking about here? Are we talking about the massive suffering of large groups for longer periods of time  because of war, diseases, and poverty? Or are we talking about nuclear infected places or maybe places affected by rising sea levels and climate change? Or the sick religious affinities and the brains that are washed early on to cause terrorism and spread fear across the planet?

So what would a mission do or a purpose of a man can achieve? another question has to be asked: does the evolution in human beings in the recalled history truly indicates a change for the good or for the bad? let us think of good as reducing pain and increasing pleasure and the bad the opposite, what about the other beings? do we have to take care of their pleasure and pain also? what if the earth and the other planets have pleasure and pain?

These all leads to a question of why did we exist and what happened that we are here with a perfect sync with nature? But do we really have to solve these questions first or we can start from the easier questions that affects directly each one of us? Why? because the beings, were they be animals or humans, are able to communicate their states whether is it distress and joy, pain or pleasure in a very clear manner.Although nature and planets can also communicate their distress at one point, it is still in a very different nature to the human and animal expression. So this is a quite good starting point. Of course we wish that one day, we discover answers for the hard questions and we should keep on trying, its part of solving the puzzle and enter another evolutionary phase…
As usual, existentialism thinking wouldn’t reach much of conclusions, but we should never loose the creed to know and discover what is beyond our imagination. I decided to put my efforts in education of people, at least to give them a solid base to ride on their own personal achievement. Moreover, the timing of this mission is critical. We are living today in a flat world, in an abundance of knowledge and the ability to access it in extremely cheap ways. This convergence of technology is giving us unlimited power and creative abilities more than ever before.
Enjoy.

Written by Naja Faysal

December 15, 2009 at 6:20 am

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Men & Marriage

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It has always been amusing for me to challenge the status quo, the things the most people are used to hear and see. The cliché in other words. I always like to unleash the second layer. To ask “why” then “why” and so on.

Lately, the topic of marriage stroked my brain as I see more people next to me getting married. So I was thinking to myself when would I or wouldn’t I ever get married. Then, I paused and rewind my memory back to all people whom I knew before and after they got married and was thinking deeply about the causes that might affected their decision. I started slowly to put down on a paper the below BULLET points about what causes marriage for our middle eastern men, a brutal reality in my opinion that might shock some and amuse others.

1. Sex… of course!!
None of those who read this blog before publishing couldn’t agree more on this… If you are living in the Middle East, you would agree as well. Sex before marriage here is very limited. Men grew up frustrated until their early twenties where they finally decide to get married, sometimes even before finishing their studies.
2. Religion
Islam encourages marriage as early as possible. It considers it as a fertility practice and the only way to have sex within the acceptance of God. Marriage in Islam is also a practice of having a partner in faith, building a family around the teachings of Mohammed and the right practice.
3. “Trapped with a BITCH girl” kind of marriage
Sherry Argov in her book “Why men marry bitches” encourages women to stand for themselves in their relationships with men. While reading the book, I noticed that many men were trapped and eventually fall into marriage with such girls who she described as “Bitches”. Of course we are not talking here about a bitch as a prostitute or some really dirty girl. We are talking about the type of girls who demand respect. Confident and clearly understand the dynamics of the relationships with men.
4. Continuous failure with women
Yes, it is true; I’ve seen it happening with most of my friends. Their continuous efforts to approach girls, take them for a date, having sex, or even extending to a relationship is part of the lifestyle they enjoy. A lot of them grew over-ambitious with women yet not all succeed to crack the code of pick-up. Those guys suffer from a disease called “The Friends-Zone” and they don’t know how to get out of it. This continuous failure to have girls around and probably more importantly to have girls who are willing to have sex with, is what drives men mad. Their frustration builds up to the extent of taking one of the most important decisions of their lives – Marriage. Now you ask me how could marriage be the solution if they are failures in getting women in the first place! Well, in the Middle East, arranged marriages are common. Simply the boy will tell the parents its time to get married, and the parents will do the rest. Simple isn’t it?
5. Social oriented marriage
Here marriage is dealt with as a practice of social affairs, of obtaining a social or financial wealth. You know those families whose girls are always desired by men seeking for a better status. It doesn’t matter how the girl look like, just as long as her dad or her family is from those elite and prestigious, no problem at all. Parents here play big role in encouraging, motivating and sometimes pushing their sons for marriage. You may ask now, does this really works? Hell yes, in the Middle Eastern societies this thing happens all the time. Lots of examples are every where, just try to dig into the people, unleash the first layer of marriage reasons and you will find it out yourself.
6. “The After Life” kind of marriage!
Here the man would have lived a life of hard working, acquired wealth and power. The only thing he forgot is to have a partner. He was glorious in his career and now oops he discovered that he is approaching his late 40s without having a kid or even a wife to take care of him in his last days. So, he would finally get off his butt to start searching for a fertile wife who can (if he still can!) bring him his junior…
7. “I’m bored” kind of marriage:
Believe it or not, many men have a big emptiness in their lives that they would fill it with marriage. In addition, these men don’t usually take marriage seriously. They think it would be a casual thing. An occasion nothing more nothing less… Eventually this type of people would soon get stressed out of the impact of their decision. They would fail to solve marriage issues especially when they already have children.
8. The “The right women” marriages
I personally believe this is the most compelling type of marriages. Knowing how important this decision is. Here men would have no worries of getting laid, successful in what they do for living and confident in what they pursue. They seek women, not out of desperation, rather out of CHOICE and selection. Throughout the years they have developed the criteria necessary to know and realize what type of women they really want.
Now, if you reading this please don’t tell me you qualify without the saying yes the following conditions:
  1. Being more than 25 years old
  2. Having the experience of living with a woman for more than 6 months
  3. Have dated (and/or slept-with) more than 15 women

Maybe this is crazy but if you see the impact of those experiences on your preferences, you will understand why they are important. Again preferences are important in general, I have written a post about preferences, I encourage you to read it.
So talking about THE women that it is right for you, this is the place where a man would feel and realize biological, emotional and mental coherence with the partner and develop a genuine conviction that this is the RIGHT ONE to keep for a life time.

Finally, it is really sad to see unhappy couples. It is even sadder to know that they don’t know why they are not happy. As Jack Canfield said in his book “the success principles” that your current situation is a result of the thoughts and believes you created 5 years back and your current thoughts and believes will shape the 5 years or maybe the decades you would live.

It is important to note though that this post is not meant to encourage people to get divorced and re-married! Not at all. In the end, Human Beings have an amazing capability to adapt to even the hardest situations ever. If you are not married though, I advise you to take marriage seriously and be wary of the responsibility ahead.

Please if you have any comment, feel free to type it below, I’ll make sure I’ll reply back as soon as possible. Also, if you find this post interesting, please forward the link to all your friends.

Cheers

Written by Naja Faysal

July 15, 2009 at 4:15 pm

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