Have you ever noticed how important is it to have a preference?
Well I did, and I am convinced that you too need to start cherishing, improving or expanding your set of preferences. I am sure you use or hear a lot of phrases like “whatever”, “I don’t know”, “I don’t care”… Let me tell you that you SHOULD care and you SHOULD know…
Jack Canfield talks about preference in his book “the success principles” as an integral part of leaping from where you are to where you want to be. You need to create a very specific and clear goals so your brain can work day and night to achieve it. If your goals are very generic, the brain doesn’t feel the urgency to work hard on, but if they were very specific with full details including your own taste and Preferences, the brain will take this as a command and you will be amazed how soon you will achieve what you have seen and visualized.
For instance, an incident happened yesterday made me realize that preferences are getting ignored and diluted by so many people including myself. We are living in a generic world where everyone is trying to “fit in” or blend within the social norms. For some reason people are adopting the same trends, consuming the same products and thinking & behaving in a very similar way. Yesterday, I realized that I was, as well, trapped by this. I don’t want to get into details of the incident, but I would like to share with you how I felt. I discovered that for so long, I was not listening to myself. I was doing and thinking just to adapt to the situation. Now, as I did finally cherished what I really wanted and took bold action in that sense, I felt a great relief and deep piece of mind, and I encourage you to do the same. If you feel you are not satisfied with your job, leave it now. If you feel that your partner is not the person you dream of, tell her/him so. Get of your butt and take action towards what is really the right thing to do.
You know, life is too short to spend time, efforts and money on something or someone that is not worthy or maybe it is worthy but not exactly where you want to spend your time at, but most of us do things without listening to our preferences – what do I really want? Which of the options fit me best? If I would care, what would be my choice? what is my opinion of this issue or that one? Is my decision affected by the social mirror or it is really what my heart and mind are telling?
The feeling that you feel and the confidence you get when u really listen to what your heart and mind is telling you and act accordingly, gives you the courage to conquer all other challenges with confidence and braveness. It makes trust yourself. You don’t have to start with big things, think of those little things that you have indifference for and try to have an opinion about them – a preference – what would I choose? Having a preference is a skill that needs training and practice, as we mentioned, start with the little things like which color I would choose for the coffee-mug all the way up to who is the person i”d like to marry with. Put unique attributes and criteria that are originally yours. Things that you are deeply convinced can make you happy.
When you have a preference you will be more focused and your objectives seem clear. Remember vague objectives produce vague results, maybe this is just a small change but it is very powerful, it is a paradigm shift, use it and you shall achieve all your dreams.
